Culture and Adoption project

I’m thrilled to share with you guys a little something I’ve been working on! ¬†Read about the Culture and Adoption project below, and share with your pals ūüôā¬†

Together for Adoption is thrilled to be launching the Culture and Adoption Project (CAP), offering free resources, training, as well as 4 free coaching/counseling sessions for families who want help navigating cultural obstacles in Foster Care & Adoption!

Culture is an integral part of our identity formation, impacting the way we relate to ourselves, others and the world around us.¬† Fostered or adopted children are required to cross cultures ‚Äď even if it‚Äôs just moving across the street! ¬†They face tremendous opportunities and they also face tremendous challenges like¬†identity confusion, acculturative stress, or cultural bereavement.¬†

Wrapping up Lent & the meaning of today

I’m writing this sitting at a bar in a diner. Next to me there is an older lady, drinking her coffee alone. ¬†She’s looking around, smiling gently at others, not desperate for conversation, but not avoiding it. ¬†She has nothing in her hands except her mug.

I, on the other hand, have a coffee, my phone, my kindle and my laptop all at my fingertips. ¬†All available. All ready to ease me out of any discomfort that might come from being here alone on Easter Sunday. ¬†What is it about us¬†that is so uncomfortable at the thought of sitting, alone without distraction¬†in a public setting. ¬†Fear of boredom? ¬†I think not. ¬†I think it’s fear of being uncomfortable, fear of embarrassment; shame.

Lent 34-35: when not belonging feels good


I’m writing this in a coffee shop in London between appointments with old friends and new work partners.

What a strange thing it is: life.  What strange stories people tell themselves about it.  What strange explanations we have for pain or for fear or for success or for joy.  Always telling ourselves and one another stories, always trying to make sense of our experiences drawing on all the possible explanations we have been handed in our lives and finding the one that fits best.

Lent 30-33: making space

There are emotions that don’t require¬†any space in order to be expressed or experienced. ¬†Fear, for example. You don’t need anyone to back up for you to experience that emotion. ¬†Anxiety too. ¬†You can have people pressing in all sides, life tugging on your sleeve and anxiety is totally at home.

But there are other emotions that need a little¬†space in order to emerge: grief, true joy, intimacy. Honestly, most of the deeper¬†emotions don’t come when you call. They like¬†to have a little room to breathe before they will surface. ¬†They need space.

Space on the calendar.

Lent 26-29: faith full

Well, good day my friends.

You know what I’m thinking about today? ¬†Faithfulness. ¬†Being filled with faith. ¬†And how strange it is that¬†we reduce that word to law keeping. ¬†Like – Joe is¬†faithful. ¬†Meaning, Joe does what he says he’s going to and¬† he doesn’t¬†mess up. ¬†We can trust him to do what he says, because he’s faith-full.

What if being trustworthy is a fruit of faithfulness, but not faithfulness itself?