I love Valentine’s Day. Thanks to my dad and to sweet friends growing up I always associated V-Day with expressing love to those you love, (and not just romantically).
But everyone has a different Valentine’s Day experience. With that in mind, here are three things I’m trying to do as I navigate today:
(1) Give grace.
Give grace to people who hate V-day. Give grace to people who love it. No one is trying to personally diminish your singleness by going on a date tonight. No one is trying to devalue marriage with their skepticism about February 14.
Give room for people around you to be where they are. Don’t make people who are in love feel bad about it. Don’t force people who are hurting to fake a smile. No one has the same story and all of us have minds filled with memories that make today hard or sweet or just another day.
(2) If you’re discontent, know that a mere mortal won’t satisfy.
It won’t work. No man will work to fix this deep and dreadful sense of loneliness that is crouching at the door.
Look, if the Creator of the Universe telling you that He loves you so much that He sent His son to die for you doesn’t make you feel wanted, I’m fairly certain that two dozen roses won’t do the trick.
Take refuge in Him today and know that no matter how it feels, His love – which is the greatest and only true love – is more than enough.
(3) If you’re satisfied with a mere mortal, be discontent.
Want more today than a perfect date with your perfect guy. As Clive Staples says, beware the heart that is too easily satisfied.
“It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
Happy day my friends.