I HATE REJECTION.
Hate it. Hate it. Hate it.
I see it in everything:
Left off an email? Only possible explanation is that everyone on the email got together and formed an ‘I hate Fabs’ club. Obvi.
Wasn’t asked on a date? Well, clearly that means that every single man in the world is at every single moment making an active decision to reject me.
Imagine what happens when poor creatures actually do ‘reject’ me. Blick.
But, they don’t call the Gospel good news for nothing. Consider the benefits it brings:
Christ has been rejected for our weaknesses, so that we might be eternally accepted for His strengths.
On the flip side, I will never again experience any kind of rejection. May I exploit rejection this side of heaven; using every scrap to display how deeply I trust in what Christ has purchased for me on the other side.
2) It’s not personal
One time King David was getting rocks thrown at his head by some crazy joker. His mighty men were ready to kill the guy, but David told them:
Leave him alone, and let him curse, for the Lord has told him to. (2 Samuel 16:11, ESV)
Don’t get me wrong, the guy was rejecting David uniquely and specifically (and maybe even for good reason), but David removes that painful sting of rejection by reminding himself that God is sovereign over all the hearts in all the world.
If some guy doesn’t want me, if my boss thinks my work is not good enough, God is the One sourcing that rejection. He may be doing it through my mistakes and my very real issues – but He does it. Not them.
And He does it for a purpose:
3) It will bring good.
Here’s the rest of that 2 Samuel verse:
It may be that the Lord will look on the wrong done to me, and that the Lord will repay me with good for his cursing today. (2 Samuel 16:12, ESV)
David says it ‘may’ be, but we have a surer word from Paul in Romans 8. If you are in Christ – rejection will result in your good.
When rejection threaten, reminds yourself: this is from God, for me. Why is it happening? Because He loves me.
4) I get God.
If God is for us, who can be against us? People may act against us, but their rejection is powerless. What could they possibly take from us? We have God, and that changes everything.
Imagine a relationship that really includes absolutely everything we could ever want or need. That’s what we have in God. What can rejection take from us?
Living with rejection issues makes life a constant minefield, but that’s not the worst part.
As long as I see rejection as something that I primarily earn through my weaknesses, I will always see acceptance as something I primarily earn through my strengths.
What about the times I am picked for the project, I am invited, I am asked out? Do those become opportunities for a little self-worship, patting myself on the back for my strengths – or do I respond like David, like Ezra: bless the Lord for putting such an idea into the hearts of those around me!
Rejection issues bring with them ‘acceptance issues’ which have dangerous and devastating implications for our lives.
What about the time I was picked by God to be His child? What about the ways He has chosen to use me?
If you make rejection about you, you will make acceptance about you.
The Gospel frees us to flip that.
Our acceptance is about Him, so now, our rejection in this life can be about Him. Take every shred of rejection and use it testify how deeply you trust His sovereign, wise and good rule in your life.