The more I study shame, the more convinced I become that basically everyone struggles with it. And the more I study shame, the more apparent it becomes that while many of us have shame issues, very few of us are aware of that we have shame issues.
The nature of shame is that it longs to hide its nature. Shame is ashamed of even itself. Very rarely does it make its presence known. Instead, shame wraps itself up in other emotions, forcing you to play emotional Whac-A-Mole, keeping you engaged in a battle on one front while your opponent actually dwells somewhere else altogether.