Two things I’m praying for marriage/singleness

Yesterday I processed why we should want marriage or singleness at all.

Today I thought I’d share some of the implications of those thoughts on my prayer life.  I spent some good time yesterday praying for:

(1) An undivided heart in singleness and an obsession to:

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Father, I pray that you would help me not to waste this season of singleness.  Let me invest in those around me with as much vigor as mother invests in her children: with passion, prayer and love for those who are your lost sheep.

Angst & Elliot

I’m feeling angsty today.

It might be that I’m listening to Patty Griffin.

It might be that I just finished re-reading Elisabeth Elliot’s Passion and Purity.

It might be that I’m in an airplane thousands of feet above the earth.Jim-ElisabethWedding

Traveling always does a little something to my insides. It’s like it gives me room to step out of my life for just a moment and view it from an entirely different angle, and I love the reflection, I love the angst and consideration of it all.

4 reasons to be a sister before you’re a wife

One of our pastors at my church recently loaned me some of his teaching notes, and I read in them this paragraph that has really impacted me:

“I am more permanently tied to the people in this room than I am to wife.  What I mean by this is that our marriage covenant will end when I die, but my relationship to my brothers and sisters in Christ will remain into eternity.  I will know my wife as I do my other brothers and sisters in Christ.”

That’s got me thinking a lot about marriage, singleness and

Single for a reason

We’ve been talking a lot in church about how marriage is designed primarily to reflect the glorious covenant between Christ and the church.  Christ pursued His people, based on NOTHING we brought to the table.  Being picked by Him made us special.  We weren’t picked because we were special.


That reality has profound implications on marriage.  If we embrace that truth it will change how we talk to our spouse, how we view sex, how we view parenting.

But it occurred to me the other day that it also should effect the way we view insecurity in singleness.

Think about it.

Thoughts on boundaries & dating from a guy

[I’ve had a lot of questions based on a post I wrote about bad boundaries. So, I asked a couple of my fave peeps their thoughts on five questions.  Today, I got a guy’s perspective!  It is super fun to work on a staff with Tyler David . I hope you enjoy his thoughts!]

What is your current stage of life?  Married for almost four years with an 18-month-old daughter.

Do you think guys and girls can be friends? Do you have female friends?  Describe those friendships!