4 reasons to be a sister before you’re a wife

One of our pastors at my church recently loaned me some of his teaching notes, and I read in them this paragraph that has really impacted me:

“I am more permanently tied to the people in this room than I am to wife.  What I mean by this is that our marriage covenant will end when I die, but my relationship to my brothers and sisters in Christ will remain into eternity.  I will know my wife as I do my other brothers and sisters in Christ.”

That’s got me thinking a lot about marriage, singleness and relationships.family

Single for a reason

We’ve been talking a lot in church about how marriage is designed primarily to reflect the glorious covenant between Christ and the church.  Christ pursued His people, based on NOTHING we brought to the table.  Being picked by Him made us special.  We weren’t picked because we were special.

grace

That reality has profound implications on marriage.  If we embrace that truth it will change how we talk to our spouse, how we view sex, how we view parenting.

But it occurred to me the other day that it also should effect the way we view insecurity in singleness.

Think about it.

Thoughts on boundaries & dating from a guy

[I’ve had a lot of questions based on a post I wrote about bad boundaries. So, I asked a couple of my fave peeps their thoughts on five questions.  Today, I got a guy’s perspective!  It is super fun to work on a staff with Tyler David . I hope you enjoy his thoughts!]

What is your current stage of life?  Married for almost four years with an 18-month-old daughter.

Do you think guys and girls can be friends? Do you have female friends?  Describe those friendships!

More thoughts on dating and boundaries

[I’ve had a lot of questions based on a post I wrote about bad boundaries. So, I asked a couple of my fave ladies their thoughts on five questions.  Today’s thoughts are from my dear pal and ministry partner Theresa. She’s the one who taught me about the question:“are women crazy”?]

1. What is your current stage of life?  

Married with a kid.  (That’s so weird to say!)

2. Do you think guys and girls can be friends? Do you have male friends?  Describe those friendships!

Thoughts on dating and boundaries from my pals

[I’ve had a lot of questions based on a post I wrote about bad boundaries. So, I asked a couple of my fave ladies their thoughts on five questions.  Let’s start with theses answers from my pal Annie.  Keep an eye out for the other responses!]

1. What is your current stage of life?

I am newly married. We have been married for a little under a year and a half.

2. Do you think guys and girls can be friends? Do you have male friends? Describe those friendships!