People are complicated.

A few months back, my pals over at The Verge Network invited me to lead a coaching cohort.  We brainstormed about topics and landed on “discipleship of the whole person.”  Cause if there’s one thing I know it’s that people are complicated.

In fact, ‘discipleship of the whole person’ is just kind of a churchy way to say – hey!  If you’re a counselor, parent, leader, manager, teacher – or any other person who spends time in your life helping those around you be the person they were made to be – you gotta understand how the body, soul, and mind integrate.  You gotta learn how to listen to people, seek to understand them uniquely and call out the fullness of who they are.

Here are just a few indicators that you might need to grow in your understanding of the complex nature of the humans you lead:

  • If you treat all your kids/clients/employees/people the same way. Do you know who is weird?  Jesus.  If you turn the pages of the Gospels, you’ll find a guy interacting in radically different ways depending on who He’s interacting with.  You know why?  Because people are different.   And they’re complicated.
  • If you always offer the same kinds of solutions.  We’ve all got our sweet spots, but if you tend to treat every emotional struggle that comes in your door with a spiritual solution, you’re underestimating the complex nature of the human race.  Frustration about something at work might boil down to resistance to trusting God, or it might be rooted in deep disappointment that a cultural script hasn’t come to fruition, or it might have to do with unprocessed grief, or it might be related to an autoimmune disorder.  Are your solutions always physical?  Always spiritual?  Always psychological?  The problems are very rarely that concise.
  • If you figure it out fast.  Did I mention that people are complicated?  If I’ve learned anything in my years in counseling and coaching, it’s that the sources of unrest are never simple.  We tend to take tools, like the enneagram, that are designed to illuminate the complexity of people, and instead use them to oversimplify or easily categorize.

At the end of the day, people are a complicated combination of conscious thoughts, subconscious beliefs, feelings, experiences, cultural narratives, physical bodies, and souls.

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