Stolen joy

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“Comparison is the thief of joy”
I first heard this quote while working at Pine Cove in college and it has stuck with me ever since. I have to regularly quote it to myself.

Think about this for a minute.

Imagine you are 16 years old again and your parents give you a car. You are so excited!  A vehicle of your own.  You can’t wait to take it for a spin, to try it out, to show all of your friends. You are elated at your parents gift.  Until you get to school on Monday and see that someone else got a car, only theirs is brand new, has lots of fancy gadgets and really could be considered your dream car.  Now all of the sudden, that feeling of elation is stolen from you.

Or imagine that you are getting ready for a christmas party.  You spend time getting dressed up and all beautified.  You arrive at the party feeling good and having fun, but before you know it, you are comparing yourself to how pretty the other women are.  They have a new dress, or they are skinnier, or they have a new beautiful haircut.  And now, well all you can think about is how not pretty you are in comparison to them.

Or perhaps God has you a job for your to do, but all you can think about it how you want to do such and such and be like so and so.  You start comparing yourself to see if you are fit for the job.  Or you start trying to be something you are not to prove that you are worth something.

I want a few lifelong friends or I want to be well liked by many. I want to be funny or I want to be seen as the wise one.  I want to be married, I want to be single. I want children. I want alone time. I want more leadership. I want less responsibility.  I could go on and on with examples, but hopefully you are starting to see how comparison really breeds discontentment and robs you of joy.  I cannot be content with what God has given me because all I can see is how I compare with someone else and what they have.

This not only robs me of contentment, but it is exhausting because I am in constant competition for my value and worth. Comparison stems from a lack of belief in the love and goodness of my heavenly father.  I don’t believe it is enough, or I don’t believe it is true, or I somehow believe it is based on what I can do. I forget that I was designed with my gifts and my flaws for a God glorifying purpose.  I forget that I was purchased because of God’s love, not because of my merit. I forget that my Father likes to give me good things because all I can see is something else that I want.

Comparison is a dangerous heart sin.  It will not only steal your joy, but if it goes unchecked, it will eat you alive.

6 thoughts on “Stolen joy

  1. Needed to be reminded of this today. I keep comparing my life (which seems to be at a standstill) while everyone else is getting married, having babies, buying houses, etc. It’s clearly stealing my joy, but I’m forgetting that God wants to give me good things.

    Thanks for sharing!

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