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Farewell May. Here’s what is in store in this month’s newsletter:

• A thought I’m processing

• A thought I’m loving

• What you guys have been processing this month

• Some links I’m loving

• A full recap & links to this month’s posts

Do people believe in ‘true love’ as presented in the movies? // [a thought I’m processing]

Culture can sometimes be weird. Like - sometimes - if you’re single and you act like you don’t want to be married - culture is like: what??? You’re missing out on the whole purpose of LIFE! YOU CAN NEVER KNOW LOVE if it’s not romantic!

And then sometimes - if you’re single and you act like you want to be married - culture is like: what?? You have an idealistic version of love!! You have no idea but marriage is REALLY HARD and you should be so thankful you’re single!! You get to do whatever you want!

So, I have been pondering a lot lately - what do people truly think about romantic love? And are their thoughts limited to their own experience? Or do some people believe things about love even though they have not experiened them?

So I recently asked peeps on my Instagram: “Do you believe in ‘true' love’ as presented in the movies?”* 50 people responded and below is what we got. (Married and single folks were in every category.)

*A lot of people pushed back wanting clearer definitions for ‘true love’. I feel like saying ‘as presented in the movies’ clarifies, right? I’m asking if people believe in the whirlwind, all-encompassing, passion/intimacy/connection type of romantic love you often see in the movies. (Think Breakfast at Tiffanys, The Notebook, Titanic…) If you participated in the poll and now wish to change your answer…sorry ‘bout that.

A ‘creed’ for living // [a thought I’m loving]

My church has been going through a series on something we call “The Third Way” - a distinctive of living into

And one of the things we worked on for the series was a ‘creed’ of sorts; it’s a list of commitments we want to embody. I’m liking it.

[Links I’m loving]

• A good show,(if you’re into psychological thrillers based in the arctic)

• A fascinating story, (if you skip to Act 3 and hear from Bill)

• A favorite TikTok, (if you remember your dreams)

• What I’m obsessed with, (cause I’m a weirdo)

• What I’m reading, (cause I’m working on believing bodies are for living in not looking at)

• What’s on while I’m driving, (if I want something easy to listen to and that makes me laugh but also doesn’t require much concentration).

• What I keep sending to people, (if you want to learn about my life!)

[What have you been processing this month?]

I asked the peeps on the gram what they had been processing this month and here’s what some of you shared:

“Platonic friendships - are they ever really just that?”

Should I do a poll on this for a future newsletter? I wanna hear your thoughts!

“Budgeting as a single gal”

Tips? Tricks?

“Attachment issues”

😬 😬 Here’s another poll I’d like to: “is learning about attachment as it relates to your past: helpful or hurtful?” Helpful poll or nah?

“How to genuinely respond to impulsive decisions my adult children are making”

Oh gosh. Anyone out there got any wisdom you want to share?

LMK your thoughts on all this in the comments 👇

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[What did you miss in May?]

Below are some links to what I’ve shared this month! (Please note that some of my messier thoughts and musings are behind a pay-wall. You can read more about why I do that here, and feel free to upgrade your subscription to access them.)

• A few final characteristics of Spiritually abusive behavior

• Podcast-ish Thing: 1.3 // Accountability for Actions regardless of Intentions

• Some thoughts on Mothers & Women

• Podcast-ish Thing: 1.4 // Enforced Accountability

• Podcast-ish Thing: 1.5 // What a week (Abuse abound Podcasts)