Pondering 'true love', some links I'm loving, and a few other thoughts for the final days of May.
a May wrap-up for all the peeps
Hi š
Farewell May. Hereās what is in store in this monthās newsletter:
A thought Iām processing
A thought Iām loving
What you guys have been processing this month
Some links Iām loving
A full recap & links to this monthās posts
Do people believe in ātrue loveā as presented in the movies? // [a thought Iām processing]
Culture can sometimes be weird. Like - sometimes - if youāre single and you act like you donāt want to be married - culture is like: what??? Youāre missing out on the whole purpose of LIFE! YOU CAN NEVER KNOW LOVE if itās not romantic!
And then sometimes - if youāre single and you act like you want to be married - culture is like: what?? You have an idealistic version of love!! You have no idea but marriage is REALLY HARD and you should be so thankful youāre single!! You get to do whatever you want!
So, I have been pondering a lot lately - what do people truly think about romantic love? And are their thoughts limited to their own experience? Or do some people believe things about love even though they have not experiened them?
So I recently asked peeps on my Instagram: āDo you believe in ātrue' loveā as presented in the movies?ā* 50 people responded and below is what we got. (Married and single folks were in every category.)
*A lot of people pushed back wanting clearer definitions for ātrue loveā. I feel like saying āas presented in the moviesā clarifies, right? Iām asking if people believe in the whirlwind, all-encompassing, passion/intimacy/connection type of romantic love you often see in the movies. (Think Breakfast at Tiffanys, The Notebook, Titanicā¦) If you participated in the poll and now wish to change your answerā¦sorry ābout that.
A ācreedā for living // [a thought Iām loving]
My church has been going through a series on something we call āThe Third Wayā - a distinctive of living into
And one of the things we worked on for the series was a ācreedā of sorts; itās a list of commitments we want to embody. Iām liking it.
[Links Iām loving]
A good show,(if youāre into psychological thrillers based in the arctic)
A fascinating story, (if you skip to Act 3 and hear from Bill)
A favorite TikTok, (if you remember your dreams)
What Iām obsessed with, (cause Iām a weirdo)
What Iām reading, (cause Iām working on believing bodies are for living in not looking at)
Whatās on while Iām driving, (if I want something easy to listen to and that makes me laugh but also doesnāt require much concentration).
What I keep sending to people, (if you want to learn about my life!)
[What have you been processing this month?]
I asked the peeps on the gram what they had been processing this month and hereās what some of you shared:
āPlatonic friendships - are they ever really just that?ā
Should I do a poll on this for a future newsletter? I wanna hear your thoughts!
āBudgeting as a single galā
Tips? Tricks?
āAttachment issuesā
š¬ š¬ Hereās another poll Iād like to: āis learning about attachment as it relates to your past: helpful or hurtful?ā Helpful poll or nah?
āHow to genuinely respond to impulsive decisions my adult children are makingā
Oh gosh. Anyone out there got any wisdom you want to share?
LMK your thoughts on all this in the comments š
[What did you miss in May?]
Below are some links to what Iāve shared this month! (Please note that some of my messier thoughts and musings are behind a pay-wall. You can read more about why I do that here, and feel free to upgrade your subscription to access them.)
Podcast-ish Thing: 1.3 // Accountability for Actions regardless of Intentions
Some thoughts on Mothers & Women
Podcast-ish Thing: 1.4 // Enforced Accountability
Podcast-ish Thing: 1.5 // What a week (Abuse abound Podcasts)