Pondering 'true love', some links I'm loving, and a few other thoughts for the final days of May.
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Pondering 'true love', some links I'm loving, and a few other thoughts for the final days of May.
a May wrap-up for all the peeps
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Farewell May. Hereâs what is in store in this monthâs newsletter:
A thought Iâm processing
A thought Iâm loving
What you guys have been processing this month
Some links Iâm loving
A full recap & links to this monthâs posts
Do people believe in âtrue loveâ as presented in the movies? // [a thought Iâm processing]
Culture can sometimes be weird. Like - sometimes - if youâre single and you act like you donât want to be married - culture is like: what??? Youâre missing out on the whole purpose of LIFE! YOU CAN NEVER KNOW LOVE if itâs not romantic!
And then sometimes - if youâre single and you act like you want to be married - culture is like: what?? You have an idealistic version of love!! You have no idea but marriage is REALLY HARD and you should be so thankful youâre single!! You get to do whatever you want!
So, I have been pondering a lot lately - what do people truly think about romantic love? And are their thoughts limited to their own experience? Or do some people believe things about love even though they have not experiened them?
So I recently asked peeps on my Instagram: âDo you believe in âtrue' loveâ as presented in the movies?â* 50 people responded and below is what we got. (Married and single folks were in every category.)
*A lot of people pushed back wanting clearer definitions for âtrue loveâ. I feel like saying âas presented in the moviesâ clarifies, right? Iâm asking if people believe in the whirlwind, all-encompassing, passion/intimacy/connection type of romantic love you often see in the movies. (Think Breakfast at Tiffanys, The Notebook, TitanicâŠ) If you participated in the poll and now wish to change your answerâŠsorry âbout that.
A âcreedâ for living // [a thought Iâm loving]
My church has been going through a series on something we call âThe Third Wayâ - a distinctive of living into
And one of the things we worked on for the series was a âcreedâ of sorts; itâs a list of commitments we want to embody. Iâm liking it.
[Links Iâm loving]
A good show,(if youâre into psychological thrillers based in the arctic)
A fascinating story, (if you skip to Act 3 and hear from Bill)
A favorite TikTok, (if you remember your dreams)
What Iâm obsessed with, (cause Iâm a weirdo)
What Iâm reading, (cause Iâm working on believing bodies are for living in not looking at)
Whatâs on while Iâm driving, (if I want something easy to listen to and that makes me laugh but also doesnât require much concentration).
What I keep sending to people, (if you want to learn about my life!)
[What have you been processing this month?]
I asked the peeps on the gram what they had been processing this month and hereâs what some of you shared:
âPlatonic friendships - are they ever really just that?â
Should I do a poll on this for a future newsletter? I wanna hear your thoughts!
âBudgeting as a single galâ
Tips? Tricks?
âAttachment issuesâ
đŹ đŹ Hereâs another poll Iâd like to: âis learning about attachment as it relates to your past: helpful or hurtful?â Helpful poll or nah?
âHow to genuinely respond to impulsive decisions my adult children are makingâ
Oh gosh. Anyone out there got any wisdom you want to share?
LMK your thoughts on all this in the comments đ
[What did you miss in May?]
Below are some links to what Iâve shared this month! (Please note that some of my messier thoughts and musings are behind a pay-wall. You can read more about why I do that here, and feel free to upgrade your subscription to access them.)
Podcast-ish Thing: 1.3 // Accountability for Actions regardless of Intentions
Some thoughts on Mothers & Women
Podcast-ish Thing: 1.4 // Enforced Accountability
Podcast-ish Thing: 1.5 // What a week (Abuse abound Podcasts)