Some thoughts on decision-making, things worth celebrating and coping mechanisms
March 2025 newsletter
Welcome to March!
One quick note before I jump in: I’m currently (for the first time since 2019) taking on a limited number of new clients! (I focus on specific areas, so learn if I’m a good fit for you here.)
In this edition of the newsletter you can find:
🤔 A thought I’m processing [on decisions]
💕 A thought I’m loving [on things worth celebrating]
🗳️ A poll [on coping mechanisms]
🔗 Some link love & images
📆 A full recap & links to this past month’s posts
🤔 A thought I’m processing [on decision making]
As I sit here typing this, I am struggling with a decision I need to make. In the process, I have noticed how much I just want God to tell me what to do.
The idea of God directing my steps - and telling me what to do next feels like such a comfort. On a number of levels: 1) he cares and wants to be involved, 2) there is a path laid out for me, 3) it protects me from making the wrong decision.
And, while number one seems to apply in every decision, I’m not sure number 2 & 3 are always applicable. Some decisions are not ‘bad or good,’ ‘black or white’ - they’re just decisions about preferences (what you eat for lunch today, for example.)
“God, tell me what to do,” sounds like faith. But I’m wondering if there is a version of that statement that is rooted - not in faith - but in anxious attachment. Anxious attachment results in folks who have a low sense of self-agency. They cling to caregivers, feeling that they are not safe with themselves. They don’t ever learn to trust their decision making abilities or their agency, and instead, need an authority to tell them what to do constantly.
I want my relationship with God to be secure - which would leave me feeling more confident in my ability to navigate daily obstacles and decisions. Not helplessly dependent, but moving confidently in step with the Spirit and in partnership with God.
❤️ A thought I’m loving [on things worth celebrating]
🗳️ A poll on [coping mechanisms]
It’s funny how different we are in our coping mechanisms. Some people cope with anxiety by obsessively picturing worst case scenarios and some people cope by refusing to think about potential downsides.
Curious about tendencies:
🔗Some link love
A couple of new intensives I’m offering this Spring!
Most listened to song this month - I’m in my teenage girl era
And - instead of links - some images I’m loving this month:
📆 What you missed in February
Below are some links to thoughts I’ve shared this past month! (Please note that some of my messier thoughts and musings are behind a paywall. You can read more about why I do that here, and feel free to upgrade your subscription to access them.)
*I didn’t share much this month. Mostly cause of the second post below. 😭